Sooooo, we moved in together.
I made a big fuss of it early on, worried really about the stigma of shacking up, and what my family would think.
Come to find out, my parents lived together before they were married. Pshh. Who knew.
Funny how we make a big deal out of things when they don’t deserve the time and attention. Besides, why was public opinion more important than my own wants and decisions.
Perhaps what was most important to me was God’s opinion. What does God say about shacking up? I did a couple of internet searches to see what the Bible said. Turns out, there are no scriptures that speak against it. Sex before marriage is frowned upon, but living together is not really mentioned.
Sooooo what have we learned about each other since moving in? I am clean and he is moderately clean. Our standards are different. Agreeing on chores and a cleaning system that works for both of us has required honest communication and compromise. Bryan came up with the great idea of splitting up the rooms in the house. My pastor recommended that women do not tell their men what AND how to do things. So I am trying to boss HOW he cleans.
The closeness of living together makes it all worth it though. I LOVE being in close contact with him. Before, we had to make a 45 minute trip to see each other. And before then, it was an hour and fifteen minutes. Before then, it was a 2 hour plane ride. So we are VERY grateful to see each other more regularly. The close proximity also makes us more playful, flirtatious and loving toward each other. It feels good.
Wedding planning is a whole ‘nother story…more to come.