*A personal post*
So I got the all-coveted ring. Yes, he put a ring on it (hey Bey!)
To be engaged is a wonderful feeling. It took me a couple days to actually realize that it happened. Even now, I look down on my ring and smile, still getting used to its presence on my little fingers. When he proposed, it was a blur. What they say is true. I blanked out and had an out of body experience, ha!. Before I knew it, I was crying and people were cheering, but it hadn’t quite sunk in what had happened. He asked me to be his wife. An engagement is QUITE the commitment. As he later put it, he was asking to love, protect and provide for me…for a lifetime. Wow. I said yes.
Another way to look at it is, the search is over. I no longer have to worry about finding "the one." I found him, and love him deeply. However, what's important to note is just because I found him doesn’t mean I can stop acting like "I’m tryna get chose". In fact, I’m feeling quite the contrary.
The engagement has made me want to step up even more to love him and cater to him as much as I can (PTI: extreme feminists, save it. I'm all about girl power and equal rights, but I also love the feeling of taking care of my man. In my opinion, you can do and feel both). My “wifely” instincts have kicked in. It probably also helps that we just moved in together, so cooking and cleaning and looking halfway decent most of the time are new priorities. We’ve received a lot of love and support during our engagement thus far. I think people are hungry to see young black couples “make it.” We’ve also experienced a few haters who have either questioned our young age (mid-twenties) or, my favorite, ask why it took so long for us to get engaged in the first place -_- (we've dated on and off for 8 years).
For us, engagement wasn’t something we did just because we had been dating for a while. It wasn’t simply “the next step” in our relationship journey. An engagement is the first official step to agreeing on a lifetime commitment. It says... I will leave my childish ways behind and step up to be the companion you need me to be. Most importantly, it is agreeing to embark on a journey that prepares us to make a covenant before The Lord. A pledge to honor, cherish and remain faithful to each other until death do us part. It is also a promise to keep God first in our lives, and in our marriage. Food for thought....
But yes, these are exciting times. There is lots of planning to do. It can feel overwhelming….but God is a provider. Can't wait to see what's next.
Until next time...