What’s interesting to me is that in the excitement and hustle and bustle of an engagement, everyone immediately wants to know when the wedding is. Soon to follow are questions about colors, bridesmaids, venue, etc. Not a single person asked about our couple’s counseling or what we planned to do to “prepare” for our lifelong partnership. As Kanye would say, [they’re] “worried bout the wrong things, the wrong things….”
Perhaps one of the reasons why so many couples get divorced is because they are not clear on the serious commitment that marriage requires. Saying “yes!” goes far beyond saying yes to a dress. We should shift our focus, and perhaps also our time, energy, and money, toward post-engagement preparation for marriage. Books, words of wisdom, recommended relationship counselors would all be phenomenal congratulatory gifts. Shower me with prayers and encouragement as I prepare to be a wife, and shower my fiance with prayers and encouragement as he prepares to be a husband.
Don’t get me wrong, I am excited about the wedding. I love our venue, my dress, and all the people who will join us for the Big Day. But really, none of it matters. The time and energy you pour into preparing for your UNION is where it’s at. Check out a few resources that can help with marriage prep under the More tab.
Until next time…