Bae and I recently met this couple at Kyle and Karley's wedding! You may remember Kyle and Karley from The Wisdom Corner a few week's ago!
Right off the bat, it was clear to see the mutual love and respect that Matthew and Danielle have for one another. Together since the age of 18, these two are survivors of a long distance relationship as well as finding new ways to make it work over the years. Enjoy their personal take on what it means to be young and committed in 2015!
You are a fly young black couple. Many people probably look at you at think #relationshipgoals. What is one part of your relationship that people do not see on the outside looking in?
[Matthew]: It’s funny, Danielle and I always receive compliments from others that sound something like this; “You guys are the perfect couple” or “I want what you have” or they hashtag “#LifeGoals” on our photos. Of course they want what they only see on the surface but what they don’t see is all the hard work, sacrifice and humility that occurs behind closed doors.
I describe married life to my friends as the most fun I’ve ever had but the hardest I’ve ever worked and the most I’ve ever invested. Marriage is a job that’s 24/7, 365 days a year with no PTO!...However, Marriage is the most rewarding work I’ve ever done in my life.
It’s something you have to be on you’re A game at all times. You can’t take breaks or resign; you have to wake up every morning dedicated to being the best helpmate for one another.
[Danielle]: The time, growth & maturity it took to experience the love we have for one another is nothing to sneeze at. We met at 18 years old only weeks out of high school and pursued this relationship for all 4 years of undergrad. We then faced two years post-grad with 1200 miles of separation (and also faced the deliberation of whether or not this was the right direction for us...) Eventually God closed the gap and brought Matthew out East (Glory be to GOD!) and even then it took time for us to get in the swing of things. Our 10 week marriage prep course and constant commitment to one another was the true testament to the legacy that we are attempting to build by exhibiting the Love of Christ towards one another. Now that we’re finally in the same state and married we are enjoying every moment and making up for all those miles apart by traveling the world together! We wholeheartedly believe we are where we are today because of the power of Jesus Christ.
What is the biggest misconception out there about love and commitment in the media?
[Matthew]: The biggest misconception is love is an action and commitment is a promise. We live in a society that has lost sight of what love and commitment truly are. Society has become too comfortable with superficial love. True Love is putting your spouse before you in every way. True Love is giving yourself up for another person. True Love is turning away from your own selfish desires. True Love is unwavering; it’s something that doesn’t fade. Real Commitment is a not an obligation, it’s a devotion and full dedication; it's loyalty and allegiance. Real Commitment is a pledge and a vow to never give up on something or someone. Marriages should be comprised of True Love and Real Commitment and not the shallow portrayal of love in the media.
[Danielle]: Love & Commitment can’t be displayed in the 10 seconds of fame captured on snapchat; or the coordinated outfits that you put together ‘for the gram’. It’s not as simple as a ‘like’ or a quick 120 character limited comment. It’s not the hashtag WCW/MCM – Love & commitment is longer than the 15 seconds it takes to post. Love itself is not even an action; but a commitment and choice in of itself. Each and every day and each and every moment a choice must be made to display, speak, and edify the Love you have for your spouse. And fortunately, it’s not only a contract that is signed with the state – which is only a piece of paper that is easily torn - but it’s a covenant sealed by none other than the Love of Jesus – and because of this, your choice is really no option at all. And that is oh so real, so choose wisely.
What is your favorite part about being married?
[Matthew]: My favorite part about being married is that marriage was designed by God. In Marriage I’ve found someone who accepts my imperfections, forgives me with grace, loves me unconditionally and has vowed to never give up on me. Where else can you find that level of commitment, love and intimacy with another person outside of Jesus Christ?
[Danielle]: My favorite part about being married is having a constant friend there to support, encourage, and uplift me. I love that I can just simply be myself, flaws and all, and that Matthew will continue to adore, care and cherish the good, bad and ugly with me through and through. He’s my irreplaceable best friend, my teammate and my confidant and that’s the absolute best part. And that’s just the cherry on top!
Until next time...