Yesterday when I was getting my hair done, Being Mary Jane was on. I felt incredibly uncomfortable watching the episode and the themes and scenarios in the show started to permeate my brain. Afterward, I desperately needed to see a positive image of marriage, so I asked the stylist if we could watch Blackish next. The negative portrayals out there are so real people! Our Wisdom Corner posts are designed to provide refreshing stories and images of young black couples making it work! Vanroderick and Amani are a perfect example. Reading their perspectives was food for my own soul! I hope you too enjoy reading about their grounded and positive relationship.
For me marriage is simple, it's a sincere commitment to doing the work necessary to be the best man for my family. Marriage is also the biggest act of faith in God I could ever live out. I'm grateful for my wife and our journey together.
I pray that through us people can see that building your family on a solid foundation, while actively pursuing your dreams is extremely practical. And also that traditional family values and faith in God are still effective.
My favorite part about being married is spending time with couples in mature marriages, those who have been together for 10-20 years, and watching them negotiate through the same simple issues that I sometimes see in our marriage... I enjoy knowing I'm not alone, and I'm reminded to just keep going!
I don't really feel I do any one thing in particular to make it work... God already said it would work...
I’ve learned that keeping Him first is all there is to do!
My marriage means the world to me. It is extremely special and I take great pride and joy in my marriage. Marriage is a covenant between God, my husband and myself. On our wedding day, April 14, 2012, we made a vow to God before our family and friends. From that moment I have taken my covenant and vows extremely serious and I honor and respect my husband. Marriage is such a beautiful thing and I wouldn’t change anything about my marriage; that even includes the shortfalls and the mistakes. I am blessed to have such an amazing husband who I plan to spend the rest of my life with. I am very grateful that God has joined us together and made us one.
My husband and I have great plans to help change and enhance the lives of others. We are both extremely passionate about serving people and doing the work of God. We stand together hoping to educate couples on how God can be the source and foundation for their marriage. It is important to communicate the message that God has specifically hand picked a spouse for each and every one of us and at the right time, he or she will be exposed. Marriage takes a lot of sacrifice and commitment. You have to commit to being selfless. That may mean occasionally putting yourself last, not because you aren’t worth it but because you love someone else that much and you are willing to sacrifice to ensure his/her happiness. It has always been my dream, along with my husband, to make a difference in the world.
There are so many great things about being married so it is hard to narrow it down to just a few but I love that my spouse was created just for me. He was hand picked and chosen to lead me. My husband is God’s best for me and I love that so much! I also enjoy being married to my best friend. It is amazing to spend endless time with your best friend, the one who inspires you and pushes you to reach past all obstacles and limitations. I enjoy living the life that we created for ourselves, we travel and live in different states, we experience different ways of living and most importantly we are figuring life out together. We mess up and just learn from our mistakes. We fall short at times because we are human but we push through and fight against the odds that may not want us to succeed. What’s even more special is that we have one another to help pick the other up when we are down.
God is what makes marriage work. I know that I have roles and obligations and I try my hardest to fulfill them all. When I feel that I am overwhelmed with things and life is getting the best of me, I pray so I can feel a sense of relief and continue to move forward.
The fear of breaking my covenant with God and my husband, is also what makes me never think about stepping out on my marriage. I know the wrath of God is no joke and I never want to experience that.
I also keep my husband and son in mind; making such a careless and irrational decision would affect them both. I could never live with myself knowing that something happened to them as a result of what I did due to a fleshly desire.
Marriages are targeted, so we overcome obstacles by continuing to stay firm in the Word and stay lifted in prayer to continue to fight off the enemy and to make our God proud.
Until next time...