What can I say about Will and Evita? They are the perfect example of "Good things come to those who wait." Evita has one of the most contagious energies around. I used to think to myself, how does someone like Evita, who's smart, beautiful, loving and well-educated keep running into sub-par guys? And then, from the gates of heaven, came Will :-D Will and Evita are a perfect match, equally yoked and equally in love. Read more on why they are taking the next step to marriage. I just love these two. Enjoy!
Why are you choosing to get married instead of remaining boyfriend and girlfriend?
[Evita]: I strongly believe in the institution of marriage because it is intentional and spiritual. I also want to distinguish my relationship with Will from others in the past. From the start, Will was so much more than just a boyfriend so it felt very natural to take the next step. On our wedding day, Will and I will make a vow before God and our loved ones to prioritize and cherish each other until death and I know we will take that promise very seriously.
[Will]: We both have a very strong belief in a solid foundation and commitment to one's partner. This extends beyond society's loose idea of marriage and into the realm of making that promise to God and to each other. We believe in that unity and want to make sure that we are setting an example for our peers, our children, and our generation. We also want to make a statement that marriage is an institution within our community, and that we have what it takes to treat a marriage seriously. We have both been in relationships before in which we were boyfriend/girlfriend, so we know that this next step is what will give our relationship its due credit.
What sacrifices have you made for each other?
[Evita]: After three months of being in a long-distance relationship, I promised Will that I’d move out to California to be with him even though I didn’t have a job (or a ring) at the time. Anyone who knows me knows that was a huge deal. I sacrificed my pride and took a leap of faith because I knew he was worth the risk.
[Will]: In my planning to potentially move across the country, I was prepared to put my plans on hold if Evita didn't want to move there, too. I was initially concerned about mentioning it to her since I first thought of doing it when we had just started dating. I took the lead on physically moving out here in order to try and gain a foothold for us both, so that she wouldn't have to worry too much about daily life. Our commutes were linked once I got here, and I made sure to chart out a way for her to get to work easily, even if that meant that I needed to commute 2+ hours in one direction.
Will, how did you know Evita was the woman you wanted to marry; Evita, what made you say "yes"?
[Will]: I knew from the start that she had all the right things for me. I told her that it was just a matter of waiting long enough to ensure that what we had was real, and that there weren't any dealbreakers hiding in the wings :) Once we were 6 months in, I knew how much I loved her. Once we hit 7 months, I had met her family and closest friends. That gave me the chance to validate within myself that the woman that I had come to love was truly who I perceived her to be. At that point, I had already charted out our next year together (the big move, the proposal, and shortly thereafter I picked out the ring)
[Evita]: I said “yes” because I love Will and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He has every quality that I prayed for in a husband and more. Aside from our relationship, I also respect and admire him as a person; he’s the best part of every day and I can’t wait to be his wife and the mother of his children.
What wisdom do you want to instill in your future children about love and commitment?
[Will] I think that it's important to remember and to learn who you are and what you need before you look for what you need in someone else. Once you have discovered that, love is easy. And commitment should be second nature. Once you have found the person that really gets you, and the connection is natural, everything else becomes a challenge that is so rewarding to pursue. The love keeps you committed, and the commitment builds your love. Everything that you do has to be a reflection of that, even when it's not all smiles and rainbows.
[Evita]: I want them to know that you should never compromise on your core values and standards when you are dating. It can be frustrating and lonely at times but you have to have faith that the right person for you is out there. Once you find your life partner, you must love and honor them even when you don’t feel like it. It’s no longer about just you but the other person as well. You must be considerate of their wants, needs, perspective and upbringing. Though it may not always be easy, communication is key. You also have to realize that the grass is not greener on the other side. Everyone has his or her faults. Trust that you made the right decision and treat your spouse like a gift from the Lord.
Until next time...