Bruce and Amber are newlyweds, NEW newlyweds. They've been married for a little over a month, but were kind enough to share their insights on love and marriage. Here they open up on how they knew they found "The One," their decision to pursue marriage, and relationship advice for their beautiful baby girl.
A few of our readers have inquired about how YBL couples knew their spouses were "The One." Bruce, how did you know Amber was the woman you wanted to marry? And Amber, what made you say "yes"?
[Bruce]: After spending some time with Amber in the beginning, I knew that eventually I wanted her to be a part of my life. We were alike in a lot of ways. She was very smart, beautiful; she knew what she wanted in life. And it just so happened that I was searching for that special kind of person.
[Amber]: I remember having a “crush” on Bruce for the longest, way before we even had our first official date. Bruce is the most handsome, loving, gentle, and patient man I have ever met so it was very easy to fall in love with him. I knew that if he asked me, “Yes” would be my only answer!
Why are you choosing to get married instead of remaining boyfriend and girlfriend?
[Bruce]: To me, marriage is special. It’s a tighter bond than that of a relationship of just being girlfriend and boyfriend. Marriage is a connection of being joined together with a spiritual promise of love and commitment and responsibility, and that makes it worth choosing.
[Amber]: To be a wife has always been a goal of mine. When I was given someone that was made just for me, I wanted to make the promise and vow to him that I was made just for him as well.
What sacrifices have you made for each other?
[Amber]: I have made a few sacrifices for Bruce but the greatest and hardest one was letting my wall down to take a chance at love. I sacrificed who I allowed myself to become, with hopes that the outcome would be far more promising. Thankfully, I was right!
[Bruce]: I have to say that one of the biggest sacrifices I made was moving to South Carolina from Georgia, leaving behind my family and a job just to be with her.
What wisdom do you want to instill in your daughter about love and commitment? If you one day have a son, what would you tell him?
[Bruce]: I would want my daughter to know that love and commitment is not a game. It’s a responsibility with that special person you have a special connection with.
If one day I have a son, I will tell him that if (and when) you find that special someone who loves you for you, and you love them back, please be a man and treat her right. Make her feel special everyday if you can.
Respect her and treat her like she is everything you ever envisioned and ever wanted.
[Amber]: I want my daughter to know her worth and her value as a woman in the relationship. I want her to understand that she has to bring something to the table. I would like for her to also know that it’s okay to love hard and to lead with your heart. She should know that love is patient and kind, and that commitment is valuable. If I were to ever have a son, I would want him to know that a woman’s heart is fragile and that he should protect it as he would my own.
Until next time...