Jeremiah and Stephania are a fun-loving and easygoing couple who genuinely love and appreciate each other. As they prepare for their upcoming nuptials, the couple took time to share their insights on being engaged, overcoming relationship obstacles, and planning to keep things "interesting" between them. Enjoy today's Wisdom Corner!
How did you first meet and what sustains your attraction to one another? How do you keep your relationship interesting?
[Jeremiah]: We met at friend's brunch and then I invited her to a pool party later on in the day. We didn’t speak much at brunch, so I was excited for the chance to get to know her more at the pool party. I sat down beside her when I noticed her sitting by the pool with her feet in the water. I started to speak but she couldn't hear me, so she moved closer. At that time, our legs touched in the water and we began to play footsie. (Yes, footsie). I felt at that moment that was it. I got in the pool and told my roommate "I want her".
Our relationship is sustained through communication and compromise. It's honestly not too hard for us because we haven't changed much in the last 2 years. We are just as silly as we were the day we met and we enjoy most of the same things.
I'm more attracted to her now than ever before because I have seen her handle tough situations that would make others crumble. She is more of a woman than I bargained for.
[Stephania]: We keep our relationship interesting by keeping ourselves engaged with each other. When we first started dating, every Monday after work was reality TV show night and we even had Taco Tuesdays. We continue to make quality time for each other a few days each week. Finally, when we're together, we laugh a lot and have fun. Even when we’re apart, we share funny memes and screenshots of things we see online.
What has been the greatest challenge in your engagement and how are you working to overcome it?
[Jeremiah]: The greatest challenge for me was trust, due to infidelity and deceit that I have experienced in other relationships. I found that when I would get upset about something, the source of my anger was my my ex-girlfriend. After I realized this...
I knew that I couldn't let the past tarnish the relationship I was building with Stephania. If I didn't let the past go, she would let me go.
[Stephania]: My greatest challenge is remembering that I am not alone. Although we’ve been together for quite some time, I still have difficulty telling my fiancé when I need help. I am used to resolving issues myself. I have always been a self-dependent woman and sometimes find myself keeping my worries and stress away from my fiancé. I am working to overcome this challenge by understanding that my stress is his stress and that we are a team. The only way we will win is if we deal with our personal issues together, no matter how big or small they may be.
What do you love most about being engaged?
[Jeremiah]: What I love most is that it is no longer MY success or My mistakes, but OURS. Having someone to share all of my experiences with, whether good or bad, and knowing that I'm not being judged is great. Instead, I'm being uplifted, praised and consoled when I need it. There's no better feeling in the world.
[Stephania]: What I love about being engaged is that I am engaged to Jeremiah. I feel that my fiancé was put on Earth just for me. He’s my superman and he came to my rescue at the perfect time. I love our union and having two loving mothers, two awesome fathers, and two sisters (I’ve always wanted sisters), and a brother. I have a bigger family now, and they are so supportive. They love us unconditionally.
Until next time...