How did you meet? What sustains your attraction to one another and how do you keep your relationship interesting?
[Michael]: Davina and I met on her college campus during a cookout a few weeks before my graduation. I always said that I wish I met her 3 years earlier! Being active in the local community, I would always find myself on her campus.
Ha Ha, our relationship is very interesting to say the least! We are total opposites! They say opposites attract and in our case this is TRUE! We continuously challenge each other, from asking random trivia questions like "What's a flat image that can be displayed in three dimensions?” or "What English word ends in the letters 'mt?'" We also have a great sense of humor. She also appreciates my “DRY” humor.
[Davina]: Mike and I met on my college campus during a cookout a few weeks before his graduation. His college was about 5 minutes away from mine and he claims (insert air quotes here) that he was always on my campus - however, I never saw him. What sustains my attraction to Mike is his humor, ambition, his character, and his overall physique. I mean like, my fiancé is HOT. We keep our relationship interesting by cracking constant jokes, all day… EVERY day. Keeps it fun.
What do you imagine your roles will be as husband and wife?
[Michael]: I’m very traditional when comes to roles/obligations. I believe that it’s the husband's role to provide, protect, and to lead his family.
Most men believe that being a good provider means supporting a family financially. I learned from my father that it means much more than financial obligations. A man should also contribute to the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well-being of his family. In order to do this, he must recognize that there are other currencies, in addition to money, that need to be provided.
This doesn't mean beating up Cam Newton (her alleged crush) if we walk past him on the street. On a serious note though, it means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as our children's. I also believe that it can mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to what my family values.
Instead of waiting for my wife to take the initiative when we’re having problems, it’s only fair that I also take the lead. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership. It's a 100/100 partnership. That means you give 100 percent.
[Davina]: Surprisingly, I do not see traditional roles for us as husband and wife, you know where the husband goes to work and makes the money for the family and the wife stays home and makes sure the house is clean and the food is cooked. Let’s make one thing clear, I am traditional in believing that Michael is the head of our household and will be supporting the family financially, however I have my own financial ambitions that I want to accomplish myself, so Mike doesn’t have to carry that “burden” alone. As far as the cooking and cleaning, I’ll handle the cooking if Mike agrees to clean the kitchen afterward. :)
What are you most nervous about when it comes to getting married? Most excited about?
[Davina]: What I am most nervous about when it comes to getting married is the full blending of our lives together. Currently with us living together you get a “taste” of what it’s like to be with someone, their likes, dislikes, annoyances, moods, etc; however, once you’re married you get the full experience and that may change one's perception of what the “taste” was. What I’m most excited about is again, the full blending of our lives together. I come from a small family that’s spread out across the country so I am looking forward to having more events where our families can come together.
[Michael]: Since marriage marks the beginning of a new phase in life, it evokes a lot curiosity in me and what it will be like to live with someone with a different perspective. For that matter, anything that is unfamiliar evokes a certain nervousness and marriage is no different.
Ultimately, it boils down to this: My fiancé is my best friend. We have taken care of one another and loved one another and supported one another without question for four years. We want to do the hard work that it takes to build a happy, healthy and lasting marriage. And I think that's just about all anyone needs to know or can know before taking the leap.
Like every man (in my opinion), I’m super excited to start a family of my own!
What do you love most about being engaged so far?
[Michael]: Saying “fiancé,” although it’s weird.
It feels so formal, so pretentious, so…French. Lol. In these first months that I’ve been engaged, I frankly found “girlfriend” rolling off my tongue much more often than “fiancée”, but I’m finally realizing that people expect you to say it.
On a serious note, it’s good to know that I’ve found a person that I will spend the rest of my life with! ☺
[Davina]: So far, what I love most is the support and love that we have gotten from everyone on our decision to get married. It’s nice to know that people support the continuation of our relationship and are excited for the next steps for us. I am also loving planning the wedding itself, it’s allowing me to see firsthand into the industry that I want to grow in.
Lovely couple...we wish them nothing but the best!
Until next time...