First of all, thanks for agreeing to share your marital wisdom on the blog! For starters, what do you love most about each other? About being married in general?
[Jerome]: My wife makes me feel super-human. My success is largely because Ro has been my constant cheerleader and my biggest fan. I also love that she is passionate about her relationship with God. She is constantly growing and becoming more spiritually mature with each passing year. And, finally—let’s be honest—she is gorgeous.
[Romaine]: What I love most about being married is that you always have a partner in crime! You have a confidant who you can always talk to. Even if we don’t want to talk, he’s there to just lie with. He makes me feel safe. When I’m with him I feel like nothing can happen to me because he’s my protector. I love that Rome can be fun, and crazy, but at the same time he can be serious and about his business. I love that he is level headed, responsible, and a family man. Family comes first to him, and he doesn’t allow anyone or anything to disrupt our family circle. Rome and I have been together since we were teenagers. Over that time we have seen each other grow from kids to adults.
It has definitely been a journey, but there wasn’t anything thrown at us that we couldn’t overcome.
We both had a mutual goal of being together for a lifetime, and we’re making it a reality.
How do you remain spiritually connected after so many years?
[Jerome]: For the most part, to me at least, a spiritual relationship is ultimately a soulmate. The first time I saw Ro, there was an unexplainable connection beyond my conscious control. And this was before I even said "Hello.” We feel wholeness and complete together and it's been like that from the very start. Our connection gave us the tools to develop characteristics and qualities that we need as human beings. I come from a background where marriage failed continuously. Ro comes from a background where marriage is a success. And that's just one example of our opposite backgrounds. So let's just say, that unexplainable attraction I had 12 years ago makes perfect sense to me now.
What are your goals as a couple for the next year?
[Together]: Our current goal as a couple for this year is to expand our family. We currently have a two year old son, and our plan is to have one more. We both come from big families, so we’re making sure our little one does not grow up alone. A major long term goal of ours as a couple is to constantly strive for success. We can both agree that we encourage one another, and support each other when new opportunities become available to us. We are always looking for ways of advancement to better provide for our family. We have parents who are successful, and who made sure we didn’t need for anything. We want our children to have that same lifestyle, if not better. We can both agree that we have that ongoing drive in us.
What else would you like to share about your marriage experience?
[Romaine]: Rome and I come from two different family backgrounds.
His parents were married, but divorced when he was a young kid. He was not a fan or a believer in marriage because growing up he didn’t see a successful marriage work.
I come from a family where my parents have been together for 31 years, and are still going strong. I’ve always been big on love, really affectionate, and wanted that fairy tale love story of marrying my Prince Charming. So when we started dating, and growing together as a unit, I made it my responsibility to show him it was possible to love someone, and actually enjoy it. Over the years we have definitely made it work. I feel that you both have to have a common goal of actually wanting to be in the relationship. If one person is giving their all, and the other is not putting forth their effort, the one sided relationship is bound to fail. Communicating your wants and needs is truly a must. Make it your relationship goal to constantly find ways to make your spouse happy.
Absolutely love this. Big thanks to Jerome and Romaine!
Until next time...